The dinner date is dying, and how! Men and women don’t know what it is to go on a proper date anymore, let alone the dinner date. And no, I’m not talking about the 2 per cent of you who actually go on these, even today—bravo to you, really! I’m talking about the rest of you who think it’s too much pain and too tedious. I mean what’s the harm in chilling at your place, or hers and watching some movie anyway, right? That exactly is what the harm is, mind you. Netflix and chill has taken the beauty out of dinner dates, completely. The double meaning concept has taken over and ruined every romantic nerve in your body, in your head and well, in your relationship.
Here’s a question:
Do you even know what two people do on a dinner date?
Yes, there is food which makes up for the dinner part of that phrase. But, what about taking care of the date part of it? I kid you not when I say it has a lot more to do than just sitting opposite each other at a quaint, expensive place, eating some of the most sought-after items on the menu. A lot more.
Here’s what makes up for the ideal dinner date—the one that you’re NOT taking her on.
1. You Plan It
It involves actual ideating, planning, researching places, food, timings—everything. You should take at least a week to do this. No, this is not a joke. You call ahead and ask the manager of said place about the place and take suggestions from friends—preferably the women—who have been to some of these places, to get a better idea of how date-worthy the venue is.
2. You Block Your Dates
Yes, just like how they have ‘Save the Date’ cards for weddings. Ask her when is she free next for a night out to some place and then tell her to block that date. You are supposed to do the same, by the way. Mark it on your calendar in red and keep all other important meetings and assignments after the said date.
3. Stay Away Till Then
This doesn’t mean you go and ghost her a whole week or ten days. You just keep yourself busy with work, or friends, or hang out by yourself. Tell her work is crazy, if you must. In any case, it’s not like you can even meet every day. Be sure to have already informed her to keep herself free on the evening you are planning the date.
4. Build The Anticipation
A few days before the date, leave her messages saying how you’re looking forward to seeing her soon. Or when you talk to each other, say it out loud. Let her know that you cannot wait to be with her and that you have missed her. Be a little romantic. And if you already are, then, just be a little more romantic. Make her want to see you just as soon.
5. Wear Something Fancy
It doesn’t absolutely have to be a three-piece suit or a tuxedo. Just wear a crisp new shirt in a colour that she might really like on you. Groom yourself well for the date. Strap on that watch that you wear only to board meetings and parties. Wear a nice cologne that you know she loves on you. Shave and comb your hair, for a change. Polish your shoes and ensure that they are shoes and not sneakers or flip flops. Basically, make efforts to be a man; not a boy. Ask her to wear something fancy too; maybe that dress that you really like to see her in.
6. Be A Thorough Gentleman
Tell her to be ready by a certain time and that you will be picking her up from her place. If you drive your own car, great; if you don’t, don’t opt for an Uber or Ola (it’s just a little cheap for such a date). Instead opt for a service like Myles, Zoomcar, Avis, etc. that lets you book yourself a self-drive car (and a really fancy one, too) for as long as you would require. Then, open and close the doors for her; pull her a chair, compliment her and ask her about her day and if she’s having a nice time. Go out of your way to ensure that she feels loved, wanted and pampered by the man that you are; and gently so.
7. It Doesn’t Have To Be An Occasion
The key to the perfect dinner date is that there is no set occasion for you to have to take her and spoil her. Just the fact that you love and care for her and that she is your girlfriend/fiancé/wife because you chose her over everyone else is an occasion in itself. That’s as simple as it gets. And this is as special as it gets.
8. It Doesn’t Have To End In Sex
It could but it’s not a prerequisite. If the two of you really feel like you want it and need it, then go ahead with it. But, if it’s just you hoping to get laid after having spent the past few days and hours planning this date, spending precious time and money, then, well, that was never supposed to be your intention of a dinner date.
A dinner date done right is an experience in itself. Everything before and after that date is completely different. On the perfect dinner date, you are in a parallel Universe where everything is perfect—life, love, people, places and circumstances. Nothing and no one can taint what you have. If you’ve been able to make her and even your own self feel like this, you’ve outdone yourself!
If you haven’t, keep trying at it! But don’t give up because the dinner date is dying and through this article, you can help keep it alive.
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